Monday, April 21, 2008

Take this job ...

I resigned today. It didn't go so well. My boss refused to accept my resignation, told me that me leaving was unthinkable and asked me what she needs to do to keep me. I talked her through my pro and con spreadsheet, and we are having a meeting again tomorrow to go through it. She is planning a counter offer.

It is important to me that we go through this process all the way - I want to leave on good terms, and the negotiation process is important. I can learn more too. If nothing else, the next person in my job will benefit. Look at me, all community minded. The part I'm most proud of is that the discussions aren't around money. Everything we have said is related to development, career progression and learning.

I don't think I've ever heard the word unthinkable so many times in 15 minutes. I felt like I'd kicked a puppy.

Guilt, isn't it fun.

Tomorrow is another day. Scarlett O'Hara I'm not.


jellyhead said...

Oh wow, this is turning out to be very stressful for you isn't it.

The same thing happened to me when I quit my last job - my boss asked me to reconsider & stay. He looked like he was going to cry. His wife did cry. I did what you plan to do - I heard him out, I stayed as detached and rational as I could, and ended up still having good reasons to go.

Keep your mind open, be brave, and do what is best for YOU (not them).

Sorry, was that what they call unsolicited advice?!

Good luck! I'll be thinking of you!

Janie said...

Ditto Jellyhead.

Walk through all this, but you know if it's the right timing for you to go.